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Emotion Revolution

Posted in PARA PENSAR on June 10, 2017 by Un Espejo Para Mi Alma

What is the Emotion Revolution?

The most harmful attitude for humans is being indifferent. When a person doesn’t feel happy, angry, sad, offended or excited their minds and souls are absent and they become like a zombie, a robot that just keeps going on without actually living. That’s why we need to keep things changing. If we feel it means we are alive.

Kpop idols can be a clear example of that process because we can see them every day. Let’s check Hyoyeon’s process.

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It is a strong concept therefore it is needed to have a strong woman to perform it.

These are pictures of her music video. If we pay attention to her eyes, she looks a little absent. Looks like the song didn’t catch her. She is singing it but she doesn’t feel it like her song, or there is no sense of belonging between her and the lyrics.


In the meantime, between the video filming and the promotions, something changed. There was a revolution on her feelings and she had to reorganize her thoughts. We don’t know exactly what happened on her mind… maybe it was the contact with her fans, maybe it was the sense of fulfillment, maybe it was comparing herself with other women… but there was a gradual change where her self-esteem increased so much, she felt reassured, she got strength and at the end she felt related to the song.

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A Letter

Posted in PARA PENSAR on June 10, 2017 by Un Espejo Para Mi Alma

This is a personal letter. This is not for everybody. This is for a specific person. This letter is different just by the reason it is written for a woman. Sadly I don’t have a way to make it reach that person in a way I can assure the letter will arrive unedited. It would be great if somebody can make a proper translation and fix my English mistakes, so the message can reach as correct as possible.

I’ve been thinking that you and I have never clearly stated the situation between us and it may lead to misunderstandings. Maybe you think that I have bad feelings towards you or a negative attitude. That’s something very important I want to explain. First of all I want to say that I come in peace. I have nothing against you because at the end I understand your difficult situation and it is something I can’t judge. I am aware that you do everything because of love and when there is love involved we all became a little kamikaze. Maybe people think exactly the same about me when they see me taking care of others… So I don’t have the right to judge you.

I don’t know how much you know about me but I would summarize my position as a feminist who fights for an equalitarian treatment between living beings. It is my fight in life, my reason to live. It means that I fight for creating a safe environment where people won’t be mistreated because of their sex, sexual orientation, race, social position, age etc. I am aware you are lesbian and I please don’t think that it would create any negative feeling towards you. It is the very opposite. I admire the courage and huge amount of love that you have to say it openly, without any fear to the reprisals. I am aware that lesbian relationships are more intense, more complicated, deeper and stronger. Actually statistics in my country say that a couple between gay men has an average duration of 1 year, a heterosexual couple 3 years and a lesbian couple 10 years. It is simply because we, women, we are protective like mothers and tend to take care more of our partners. It is what I see in you: Your tirelessly effort to take care of your partner, to protect her from the effect of her own actions.

I’ve paid close attention to you and since ever I saw the way you protect your partner, no matter what effect would that have on you. Looks like it is that kind of love like “I will be a human shield for you”. Maybe that’s how I created that empathy with you. I also know how it feels when you love someone and you take care of that person, you are there, supporting, helping, sacrificing yourself, in the good and bad times, and then you realize that this person doesn’t give a sh** about what happens to you.

“Why would I worry about somebody who wouldn’t mind to feed me to the dogs?” One thing is to say it and another thing is to do it. We, as women, fall on that cycle very easily. We are taught that we must protect, take care, to forgive again and again, that love is directly related to be a martyr. We are taught that love is like that… but it is not. I shouldn’t be like that. Love shouldn’t hurt. If it hurts, then it is not love, it is a sick relationship. Sometimes we think that if we give more, everything will get fixed, when actually the relationship must remain in a 50% and 50%. There shouldn’t be sacrificed people in the name of other’s welfare.

As far as I created this empathy with you, and that I just realized that there are many things that are right in front of us but we don’t see it until somebody else point them out, I will do some kind of group therapy called “The showdown” or “The loving confrontation”. It is time to be face to face and say everything clearly. Sometimes we need somebody to slap us strong enough to wake up. It is not with bad intentions. It is not to enjoy other’s pain. It is to wake up, to stop avoiding the delicate topics, to face reality and to ask ourselves if we feel happy, safe and loved. This is a “sorry-not-sorry” situation. I don’t want to hurt you, but I may need to, so you wake up and analyze if your situation is right or not. We all are going through this process. It is part of the “emotion revolution”. It can’t be done sweetly and softly. It has to be a tough process, because when we are in our comfort zone we don’t evolve. This is the process: Shock, crisis, analyze emotions, organize our own ideas, take action.

This is the moment to compare what we expect and what we have. Expectation vs. Reality.

To make it clear that this is a non-manipulated situation, I will make it public, where everybody can contribute with their own ideas and opinions. That’s why it is called a “Confrontation” but it must remain in a loving way. People around you, who love you and want your welfare, will tell you all the things that they see and think are wrong so you can fix them. It must be in a loving healthy way, with constructive criticism and not destructive. Nothing to destroy other’s self-esteem.

Anyway, you have your free will. Feel free to ask whoever you want or to avoid other’s comments, to think everything by yourself and draw your own conclusions.

Why you? Because in this whole land where are we all involved, there are only 4 women with a deep and real mental illness. The one in a worst situation is the girl who cooks with hair on the food. She has been sick since very young and learned how to hide it. The second one is her little sister. She is not as sick but her mental health is degenerating really fast, I mean, just look at how much her mind degenerated in a year or 2. You wouldn’t believe that it is the same person. The third one is sick due to her environment and background. Power and money without love caused a mental break down on her.

And the forth one… is your partner. And I am giving you a real warning to be ready for the worst. I know you love her, I know that bad news about her causes you suffering, but it is the truth. Her mind is not stable and she tends to do things that are a risk for her and for her surroundings. She has self-destructive impulses. I’ve been giving small remarks, expecting you to understand, but it may not be enough and her mind is degenerating fast… and especially because I see the huge amount of love you have for her, I don’t want you to be blind until there is a bad surprise. I am especially aware of how difficult would be for you to find her in such situation. The difference between your partner and the other 3 sick people is that they don’t have somebody like you on their side. That’s why there is nothing to do with them.

As far as her sickness is in such deep level, she needs very intensive treatment. I want to focus on you. You are the closest person to her, you are in a bigger danger, especially because love makes you to lower any defense or protection towards her. You see her every day, you are exposed to her mental illness all the time and you won’t notice if she is getting you sick too.

When a person reaches such level of mental illness people around gets sick of several things. If her reality is distorted and she talks to you often, she will get her ideas into your mind and will distort your reality. If she has self-destructive impulses, she will be destructive towards you or will turn you into a self-destructive person too. There are several kinds of self-destructive people and she is the kind that reacts by impulses, so you don’t have to wait for a long depression or bad signals. That’s why it is so urgent to treat her. You are free to check her out with as many specialists as you want. Look for a second opinion from a doctor. Do whatever you want, but please take action with her. You can’t just keep going on like if nothing happens because you know that her behavior is not normal and you can’t hide it forever. You can’t face the effect of her actions forever. You can’t be always by her side making sure that she is not getting herself into risk. You can’t take care of her by yourself, you need help to help her. Professional help is never bad.

When somebody is too close to an insane person, they get a mental disorder called “stubbornness”. It means to be blindfolded towards the situation or not wanting to take action due to fear of the future. The sick person is not fully aware of what happens, of how bad the situation is, but people around who notice everything more clearly, decide to not see it, decide to fake like everything is ok, decide to not think about it and expect that the illness will spontaneously go away. It is an attitude of “If I don’t see it, it doesn’t exist”. Mental illness keeps growing up and ignoring it will just feed it.

You are blind in many aspects. I don’t know if you are aware of that. So, this is the first step of the confrontation. I will tell you what I see and then you analyze it. I can’t lie to you, because you know what you feel and I am sure there are many situations that nobody knows. So this is the slap in your face to wake up:

There are many kinds of lesbians. There is who is born being lesbian and who turns into lesbian. I’ve seen her and she wasn’t born lesbian. She likes men. A lot. She falls in love, she flirts, she feels attraction… But men are selfish, sexist and have their own issues. Men betray, men don’t take care of her, hurt her. Relationships with men fail so easily. She feels unloved, lost, alone and suddenly she finds a woman who loves her, who takes care of her, who stays on her side no matter what and who fulfills all her emotional needs… obviously she thinks she is lesbian. It can happen to anybody. If there is emptiness since her childhood, if mom failed to fulfill certain needs, if there are certain resentments against dad, if she tries having a relationship with men, again and again and men just if they mistreat her, especially if they use her as sex toy, men turn into disgusting beings. You are a shelter for her. You are that safe place where she feels loved for who she is and not seen as a sex doll to use a throw away. The problem is that she sells herself as a sex toy. She doesn’t know how to approach to men in a different way. She doesn’t see herself as something valuable therefore she sells herself as a cheap object. You may see her as the most valuable person in the world, and even say it to her, but if she doesn’t believe it, she won’t behave like that. She approaches as a sex toy and then expects to be treated as a lady. When it doesn’t happen she feels failed, she has self-destructive impulses, she feels that nobody loves her and then… you are there loving her and healing those wounds. She gets strong again, but then she still wants a man. She doesn’t say “Oh, men are bad. I will stay with this woman who loves me and treats me well”. No. She looks for another man.

She keeps dreaming that she will get married. This is another issue. She was raised with all those so harmful “Princess’ dreams”. She dreams to get married and have a white dress, a wedding cake, a party, a honeymoon where she can show off to everybody… and it is something that you can’t give to her. At least not in your country, not in your culture… I mean, in other countries you would get married and adopt children, but that’s a whole different story.

Why is she hurting the people around her so much? Because she is jumping from here to there, trying out several things, but she still doesn’t know what she is, what she likes, what she wants in the future and even if she knows it.. she doesn’t know how to get it. So, this is the first question. Is she with you because she loves you or because she can’t get something else? I mean, something that fits with her expectations. Do her expectations match her reality?

You need to think about this with a cool head. If what she has doesn’t match with what she wants, she will be frustrated. If she is frustrated she will blame others and be aggressive towards her surroundings, especially towards you. Does she enjoy your company? Does she look for your caresses? Does she love you every day or only after a crisis? Does she loves you so much one day and the next day she feels sick of you? Who kisses who? Who looks for whom? If you try to kiss her, what is her reaction? She may feel happy, sad, she may feel passion, she may reject you and even feel it as disgusting. Does she push you away? Does she kiss you sweetly? Does she hug you like if she is looking for protection? Do you feel her like a little girl? In the relationship, do you behave like 2 women or there are male/female roles?


There are many situations that have nothing to do with you, but will affect the way she is with you.  What are the characteristics that she sees as masculine and feminine? What is her relationship with her father? What is the story of her first love? How was her first sexual experience? Does she really still believes in love or just sees love and sex as a tool to get benefits? Does she still believe in others? Can she really trust?

Being lesbian doesn’t mean that she is feminist, there are women who don’t believe in women’s strength still think that men are stronger, therefore they think that being a woman means to be submissive and punished and if becoming lesbian is like becoming almost a man who can be strong and take their own decisions. This is a dangerous attitude because the victim can turn into torturer and innocent people will suffer it. It can be a reason of why, despite she has a good relationship with you, she still looks for a man. Even if you fulfill all her needs, she may think that there is something missing, when actually there is nothing missing, it is just a personal issue.

It is known that lesbians have better relationships in general, in the affective side as much as the sexual side, but many of them still break up because of the environment. Knowing that it is something rejected by the society, the religion, the social pressure, the worrying of what would the family think etc. creates a huge stress. A person who is sure of her feelings will fight against it bravely, but if the person has doubts will try to remain on the comfortable side.

I won’t talk about cheatings or having several partners, because we know nothing about your agreement as couple. You may be on a free polyamorous relationship, under a common agreement, where both are free to have several sexual partners but still they are a couple who loves and takes care of each other. We can’t point out something as a cheating or not if we don’t know the personal agreement or there was a temporary break up or whatever.

Completely apart from her sexual orientation or behavior… How do you feel? Are you happy? Do you need anything? Is there anything you want to talk about? Does the reality match with your expectative? Are you satisfied with the relationship? Do you receive as much as you give? How do you see the relationship in a long term? Is your relationship affecting your job or other areas in your life? Do you feel loved, respected and appreciated?

And this is very important because it is clear that you are willing to sacrifice yourself in her name. You will try to save her no matter what. It is a huge proof of love but… Does she notice it? Does she appreciate it? Is she willing to do the same for you? You feel worried every time she gets into troubles but… is she trying to avoid problems for you? I am wondering if before taking any step she thinks about the affect it would have on you, if she may hurt you, get you into troubles, worry you.

Let’s make a list of priorities. If you make a top5 of your priorities in life, where is she? If she makes a list, where are you? Does her behavior match with that list? How important are you in her life? How important is she in your life? What would happen to each other if you were not together? If her actions had no effect in your life.

Has she ever wondered if you are getting tired of taking care of her like if she was a little immature girl? She may think that there is no reason to become responsible for her actions because you are always there to fix her problems, so she can keep going on and on and getting into bigger problems because she is so sure that you will always be there. It is clear that she takes you for granted and she knows that she can go away, do a mess and comeback and you will always be there, begging to her and willing to fix the mess. Couples should be equalitarian. Are you able to leave, make a mess and she will fix it for you?

As I said before, she has self-destructive impulses. It creates a desire for experiencing risky things. She enjoys putting herself on risk. She provokes those situations and she wants more every time. There are 2 kinds of people, the ones who enjoy rollercoasters and the ones who will never ride one. If you think about it logically, who would enjoy feeling something similar to death? But still there are lots of people who enjoy it. That kind of people looks for other “exciting” things to do. Remember that adrenaline is an addicting substance and the body wants more and more often every time.


Having someone for granted is not exciting, is boring and can even turn into a responsibility, that’s why people say that marriage is boring and love affairs are exciting. If you are on a diet and only eat chicken breast every day and you are told that you are forced to only eat that every single day, you will want to eat a chocolate cake even if you know it is not good for your health. That’s the same situation. When you assume that something will always be there, it can easily change from a privilege to a responsibility and then turn into tiring and annoying. But if you know that at the first mistake your partner will simply break up with you without dramas and you know he is not giving you a second chance… you behave well for sure.

Usually, we don’t want to see when our partner is already tired of us. It is very hard to definitely finish a relationship, especially if it is very long. Sometimes people instead of saying clearly “This is over” they do things to make you run away, so you are the one who takes the first step to break up, so they don’t feel bad after that. If you don’t get the message you may turn into a sticky person. Have you heard the saying “Sticky like a bubblegum under the shoe. The more I step on her, the more she sticks to me”. Of course nobody wants to be under that situation, so we shouldn’t blindfold ourselves and constantly analyze how our partner is feeling about the relationship.

How can we know it? Let’s suppose that I am tired of my partner… it means that I am not seeing her abilities or I minimize them while I maximize her flaws. Therefore she will turn into an annoying person. It will be so bothering to spend time with her. Even if there is a fun situation, I would prefer to do it with somebody else or alone. It will be even worse if the person tries to kiss me, hug me or gets too close. I can feel that she is not respecting my personal space. I will feel suffocated. I will feel that she needs to do more and more things to keep me on her side because she doesn’t deserve me. I will point out her flaws without thinking about hurting her (because there is a difference between destructive and constructive criticism). I will compare her to others. I will think that I will be better with somebody else.

If she would define you with one word, what would she say? How would you define her? Does her behavior match with what she said?

Anyway, as far as we are talking about a sick person, we can’t expect a logical behavior. When we face a person like this, we have options. You can stay with her and try to help her as much as possible, but being aware that her mind is too degenerated. She has crossed the line to insanity too much and we don’t know how much it is possible to save from her mind. The crazy laughs, the hyperactive behavior and the level of her obsessions are too bad signals. I say it again, you should be ready and always expect the worst. She is not gonna change, she will not be completely healthy never, she can’t even get better… the more we can expect is to stop her mind from degenerating so fast.

See it as a person with cancer on a terminal stage. You can try to get some treatment or you can just let things flow and whatever has to happen, let it happen. Get used to keep living the same way you have been living the past months, maybe things will remain the same, maybe they will get worst. Just remain aware that she can get you sick too. Maybe you need to reset your priorities and check what is more valuable… yourself or her… What can be still saved and what cannot.

You can run away and let her to face the effect of her own actions. Maybe you will remain with a bad taste of being selfish and regret that you abandoned her in the name of saving yourself. It depends on how much you have done to each other. Your heart will tell you if she deserves to have you on her side or if she doesn’t deserve you. Anyway, we don’t know how much time will you be able to bear the responsibility of taking care of a sick person, but you always have the “abort mission” bottom available.

Anyway, just remember that love doesn’t hurt. If it hurts, then it is not love, it is a sick relationship. Nobody deserves to be mistreated under any circumstance. We can easily fall on the violence circle:

Honeymoon: Where everything is beautiful.

Stress stage: The person is getting tired of her lover and feels trapped. Small actions of disgust and rejection towards the lover.

Violent act: When the person explodes against her lover

Regret: The person feels bad for being ungrateful, asks for forgiveness. There is self-punishment and self-humiliation. Promises of change and “It will never happen again. I didn’t see your real value”.

Honeymoon: The person is even sweeter to compensate the mistreats and humiliations towards her lover

Stress again and the cycle starts again. Every time the honeymoon and regret stages are shorter and the violence stages are more violent. For example, if the person asks for forgiveness and the lover is already too hurt or doesn’t forgive, instead of a honeymoon, there will be another violent action like emotional blackmail or threatening. It is like “I will punish you for not obeying me. What does hurt you the most?”

Always expect the worst. That’s why it is very important to have the help of a professional doctor. Do some research, ask for the professional’s opinion, gather as much information as possible and then look for possible solutions for your problem, but you can’t just keep acting like nothing happens. Right now you are a tight rope walker, you can do it blindfolded or not.



Ancient American cultures

Posted in PARA PENSAR on March 16, 2017 by Un Espejo Para Mi Alma

How to identify the main ancient American cultures?

The 3 main ancient cultures in America are the Aztec, Mayan and Inca. This is a brief description of some of the main cultures we can find in America:

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In the northern area of America, currently known as Canada and USA, were several indigenous civilizations, with semi-nomadic population, divided into small tribes. Their main characteristic was their pacifist personality.

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They had a huge wisdom and were aware that the world works well only when there is a balance.

Most civilizations divide living beings by a hierarchy. Seeing it as a pyramid: On the base of the pyramid and with a lesser importance, there are the plants, then there are the animals and on the top is the human being (or sometimes a god), and this is who has most importance and privileges over the rest of the creatures. North American aboriginals didn’t see the world that way. They said we live in a net with the shape of a cobweb, where we all depend from each other, we are all connected and nobody can be superior to the others. We must take care of each other because if one of those elements is missing, the cobweb gets broken, the balance is lost and it will unleash a great chaos that will affect every single living being.

Also in North America, in the center of Mexico, there was the Aztec civilization. Also known as “Mexica” (Meshica), that led to the actual name of Mexico. Aztecs amazed everybody by creating one of the biggest cities in the world on a lake. When Spanish conquerors arrived for the first time they sent the message to Spain: “It is like Venice, but much bigger”.


Aztecs learned to build, live and sow over the lake. They had complex irrigation system that includes canals and they even learned to turn salty water into drinkable water.


Aztecs are also famous for being a race of innate warriors. They were really brave and even sadists. They were vicious conquerors. They used to enslave every tribe they found on their way. That way they managed to have one of the biggest and most powerful empires in the history of humanity. Neighbors traditionally feared and hated them.


When the Spanish conquerors arrived to Mexico, they created an alliance with all those smaller civilizations that had the hope of ending the Aztec tyranny. Even now, and after centuries of these aboriginals mixing up with other races, and despite it is impossible to find a “pure race” at present… even now, people from the rest of Mexico or descendants from other ethnicities, still think that people from the center of Mexico (including the capital Mexico city), are much more dangerous, aggressive and insensitive. Aztec descendants are known for having an inner courage to defend themselves more than anyone else, they will never allow others to mistreat, use or humiliate them.

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[Brief parenthesis: I am aware that we all must constantly work against racism and prejudices, but sometimes we can’t avoid having that kind of thoughts. We used to live in a house that had a garden, with a metallic gate. On the next house, a family from Mexico City arrived and opened a small fruit shop. The first problem was that they put boxes with vegetables over the whole sidewalk and it was impossible to walk there, but then they kept using more and more space and used to leave lots of garbage on the street. Suddenly we noticed that they used our house’s gate to tie up their signs and even they hanged pineapples from our door. That’s how much they extended their shop over the street. My mom went to the store trying to talk to the owner, and suddenly the owner came out with a machete on his hands, yelling so angrily and threatening my mom. It was a real problem. My mom went to another neighbor who was a policeman, asking for protection and the policeman said: “I can’t do anything. They use to park their trailer in front of our store, covering it completely, clients can’t see us. I went to him asking to move away his trailer and he said exactly the same. He threatened me and my family, and he knows I am a policeman!”

For us, who are from other areas of Mexico, it is very frightening to go to Mexico City. I can tell you for sure that I feel safer traveling to another country than traveling to Mexico City. People try to avoid going to that area, unless it is totally necessary. If somebody from Mexico City arrives to your neighborhood, you will notice it immediately. They say that we, people from the province, are clearly more innocent and naïve than them, and they are right.]


Also in the center of Mexico, but on the coast side of the Gulf of Mexico, we can find a very ancient civilization, older than the Aztec. It is called “Olmec”. Scientists believe that it was the first great civilization on the area and there was the origin of the Aztecs and Mayans.


Olmec people had a deep love for knowledge, they loved to study and learn on any possible area, going from botanic, mathematics, astronomy, etc. They created one of the first calendars in the world and the explicit use of the number zero in mathematics.

Olmec people loved to write. It was the first American civilization to develop a writing system. Scientists have found inscriptions made before the year 900 before Christ. From that point they wrote absolutely everything that happened. They used write a lot, but abstractly, using lots of symbolisms. In the present days it is really hard to decode those writings, especially the ones related to theology.

That culture was pacifist, mainly focused on studying and sharing that knowledge. One of the main symbols of the culture is the giant sculptures of their governor’s faces sculpted on a single, huge rock. The weird fact about those giant heads is that their facial features are similar to the ones found in black people, when there are no signs of black people arriving to the area until centuries later.

[Note: I come from that area and still now, my hometown is known as “The American Athena” because there are very good schools and people is known for loving knowledge, culture and especially the performing arts].

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In the south-east side of Mexico, we can find the Mayan civilization. In the present it is said, half joking, half seriously, that they are the “aliens” or the ones who were in touch with aliens and that’s how they got all the technology to have such achievements and scientific and technological advancement, completely out of the blue (apparently).

Mayans are different to the rest of American aboriginals. They are much shorter; they have very big heads and huge, almond-shaped eyes. Just like an alien. Their aboriginal language is very difficult and completely different to any other language found in America or Europe. They have an unexplainable knowledge of the space and its movements, especially because they didn’t have any optical instrument like telescopes.

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They appeared in a mysterious way, created huge cities-states very similar to the Roman Empire, with a special political system, unknown in America. Their empire extended around all Central America and suddenly they disappeared in a mysterious way, leaving abandoned cities. Scientists still can’t understand how such huge civilization just disappeared without signals of collapsing, having war, natural disasters or epidemics.

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How is it possible that a civilization, which wasn’t able to develop the wheel, was able to create a calendar with a margin of error of 1 day every [I don’t remember how many] thousands of years and were able to calculate the year in Venus with an error of only 2 hours without having a telescope?

In South America, there is the Inca culture, also known as Quechua. It was one of the biggest empires before the Spanish colony in America. That empire had the territory of the actual Peru, Argentina, Bolivia, Chile, and Ecuador.

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They had a very strict political and military organization. Everything was under the government’s supervision. They had a wide network of communication routes that included bridges, well-tended paths, and storages around all the roads where royal travelers could rest and keep all kinds of goods. They also had a complex system of “mail” or messenger service. It was formed by a group of young men, who used to run from their post to the post of the next messenger. That way, as a relay race, messages could reach their destination really fast.

The empire, which settled over the Andes Mountains, had a natural protection against invaders, but still they build huge fortresses making their main cities almost impenetrable. Due to these fortifications, the Inca Empire was the last one to be conquered by the Spanish soldiers in all America.

Also it is very difficult to recover the information about their technology. Nowadays researchers don’t know yet the secret of the “melted” giant rocks used to build the fortresses. There are only legends about some kind of “aliens” who gave natives a special “powder” that made rocks moldable like play dough for a certain time, but there is no scientific information about the construction of the walls. The rocks are huge and fit perfectly to each other. It would be really difficult to build even with the actual technology.


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The most important fact of this culture was their agricultural research and all their advances. There was very little land with a proper soil to sow, little water and hostile climate. They thought about new styles of sowing that would help to create more productive soil, to store water and to avoid the erosion of hillsides and slopes. They created irrigation systems with aqueducts and channels.

They even had research centers where they made experiments to obtain better products. They researched about all kinds of vegetables, as an example, they worked with more than 200 types of potatoes. They also simulated more than 20 micro-climates in a single research center and they easily created artificial lakes.

They also researched on different areas and had such scientific developments that they were able to do successful brain surgeries, in a time that was unimaginable in Europe. It was the only culture in the world that could eradicate hunger. The cities were build thinking on a long term. The way streets were build allowed an organized future growing of the cities.


Ever-growing desire to keep the spirit

Posted in PARA PENSAR on February 5, 2017 by Un Espejo Para Mi Alma

People say that everything in music is already done, that you can’t completely create new music, or make something 100% original, but you can make something new out of something old, and it gives the chance to “polish” it and make it better, like taking a rock and turning it into a diamond and then taking a diamond and turning it a beautiful jewelry.

In my opinion those are very good examples of taking something good and turn it into something great.



Serenata Rap by Jovanotti  (Italian version)

Lyrics English translation of the original song

Rap Serenade


If I meet you in the street, I can’t talk to you

Words get stuck and I can’t look at you

in my eyes it feels like going crazy

If I could amplify

the beat of my heart you could hear

a drummer of a heavy metal band

and that’s why I’m here in front of you

’cause maybe it’s more easy to sing you a song

maybe so loud that walls and people can hear it

rather than phoning you and tell you everything face to face

risking a bad impression

I’m shy, but love makes me brave

to tell you that since I saw you, to me it’s always May

and in May the world is wonderful and full of colors

yet on trees there are only flowers

that now or then, they say, they will become even fruits

so what do you do? you greedily wait,

you wait for that wish to be shared

I’m here before you asking you a smile,

appear at the window honey, appear at the window, answer the entryphone

I came here with a record-player and with a microphone

with my band to sing you my feelings

and if you’ll want to kiss me, I’ll be happy

this serenade is my dare with destiny

I’d like to have you close for the rest of my life

a rap serenade to tell you that…

I like how you look at me, I like how you are with me

I like your nose, it matches with the world

I like your arse, it looks so round

that it makes every living being a satellite

I like you because you’re clever

you can see it from your hands, from how you move them

you cause always new thoughts and feelings in me

I see the Alps in your hips, the Dolomites in your breasts

I like your taste in choosing clothes

the fact you’re beyond mainstream fashions,

you’re a flower grown in the asphalt and cement

appear at the window honey,

appear at the window

appear at the window…

Since tonight I’ll be the one for you

Rap serenade, metropolitan serenade

be my lover, I won’t be a son of a bitch

don’t believe the things they say about me

they are all a bit jealous, who knows why

I’m not promising you stories of passion like those in the movies

or novels, or what, a song

I’m offering you truth, body, soul and brain

Love, just love, only only that

appear at the window my love,

appear at the window my love,

appear at the window my love…

Since tonight I’ll be the one for you

“Amor ch’a nullo amato amar perdona”, damn [1]

I’ll write it on the walls and in subways

millions of inhabitants of this city

that day by day, ignoring each other, they carry on

and then who knows why, who knows why

for how nobody knows why, who knows why they don’t know

how two glances make a destiny in a moment

buildings, asphalt, smog become a divine garden

people consecrated by the exchange of a ring

and a one-room apartment will become a castle,

appear to the window my love…

[1] “Amor ch’a nullo amato amar perdona” is a popular quote from Dante Alighieri’s Inferno (“Love, that releases no beloved from loving”).

Also: this is supposed to be a very naive song, so don’t be surprised for “I like your arse, it looks so round / that it makes every living being a satellite”!


Second version:

Serenata Rap by Sin Bandera (Spanish version)

I am not saying this just because those are my favorite singers in Spanish. It is amazing that those singers got into this style because both are balladists. This is completely different to their usual style but they took the song, did a few small changes and created something that fits with their voices and their fan’s taste. The lyrics are basically the same, just in a way a little bit more poetic. When they released this song I was already familiar to the original and when I the new version I felt so excited and really liked it.



Será by Ricardo Montaner

Lyrics English translation of the original song

And I was dreaming, with the illusion on my back,

Keeping my hopes in the torn pocket of my pants,

In the bottomless trunk of my disappointments.

While I was lethargic in the time

While I was obsessed with seeing you

my eyes were reddened my mind withered.

Would it be? Maybe the moon wasn’t completely full.

Would it be? Maybe the time diminished our desires

Would it be? (x3) was it because of the moon?

Would it be? (x3) the desire, Would it be?..

And I remain in suspense, with a brief history,

I feel my small body sinking

At the lowest levels of my heartbeat.

between my implausible frustrations

I can find you.

While I was lethargic in the time

While I was obsessed with seeing you

my eyes were reddened my mind withered.


Second version:

Será by Sin Bandera



¿Y si fuera ella? By Alejandro Sanz

Alejandro Sanz writes very beautiful songs in terms of lyrics and message, but personally I don’t like his voice and it causes me an internal conflict because it is like “I like it but I don’t”.

Lyrics English translation of the original song

She glides and knocks me down,

and even if sometimes I don’t care

I know that the day I lose her

I’ll suffer again for her…

Her, she, who appears and hides;

who leaves and stays;

who’s a question and an answer;

who’s my darkness, my star.


She tangles and disentangles my soul;

she goes with me, but I don’t know where she’s going.

My rival, my companion;

who is so deep into my life and,

at the same time is out of it;

I know I’ll get lost again,

and then I’ll find her once again

but with another face and a

different name and another body.

But it’s still her, taking me away again;

she never answers to me

when the wheel turns…


She’s cold and eternal;

a whisper in a storm,

she, whose voice has changed so many times.

People come and go and,

it’s always her

she, who lies to me and denies it;

who forgets me and remembers me.

But what about if my mouth makes a mistake

but what about if my mouth makes a mistake and,

says another name when calling her?

sometimes she pities this madman,

this blind and mad heart.


Let it be whatever God wants it to be.

My crime was the stupidity of ignoring

that there are heartless people.

And it’s burning, it’s burning me and it burns me.

I lost her again.

And what about if it’s her?


She tangles and disentangles my soul;

she goes with me… I think,

My rival, my companion; that’s her.

But it’s so hard when I see another goodbye approaching.

And I’ll lose her again, and I’ll ask once more,

while she’s leaving and, there’ll be no answer.

And what about if that woman who’s walking away…

What if she is the one?

the one I’m losing…

And what about if it was her? And what about if it’s her?


Let it be whatever God wants it to be.

My crime was the stupidity of ignoring

that there are heartless people.

And it’s burning, it’s burning me and it burns me.

I lost her again.

And what about if it’s her?


…. sometimes she pities

this madman, this blind and mad heart.

Was she? Who can tell me whether it was her?

And life is a wheel that turns all the time

and nobody knows when they have to jump out.

And I look at her… and what about if it’s her? What about if it’s her?

And what about if it’s her?



Second versión:

¿Y si fuera ella? By David Bisbal.

This is exactly the same song but with a new voice. I like this one more. I like more his voice and his passion. The first version is more painful, the second one is more passionate. Also it is amazing because this guy was in a singing contest in TV. He won and became a very famous singer due to this song.


Third version

¿Y si fuera ella? By Jonghyun.

This one is my favorite. I love it. For me, Jonghyun’s version is the best. And I am not saying this because I am a Kpoper, because this is not Kpop… But Jonghyun has this amazing, unique voice, he has studied much more about music and has the benefit of being much younger than the other 2 singers, so he has more chances to make a better job, to keep polishing his voice, to keep working on new styles etc.  Also Jonghyun is super passionate on the stages, he has much more energy, we can feel his vigor because of his age. This song gets me into another internal struggle. The original version has such beautiful lyrics, but the Korean version has completely different lyrics, but at the same time those new lyrics are so intense too.

(Also I want to make a break to remember about that day when me and a friend tried to convince her mother to approve Kpop. Her mother likes old ballads and doesn’t like new things, including Kpop. So we thought she would like Jonghyun’s song, because she is a fan of Alejandro Sanz and loves this song. We were saying things like Koreans are very careful about their songs, to not say obscene/vulgar things and how much they work and practice to give high quality shows and blahblah. Then we showed her Jonghyun’s performance but we didn’t watch it before… and we didn’t know what to do when her mother was looking at Jonghyun’s bloodbath).



¿A quién le importa? By Alaska y Dinarama

The songwriter of the original version said about that she made the song because “Sometimes people are just too twisted and too snob. They want to be the owners of everything they like”.

Lyrics English translation of the original song

Who cares?

People flag me

They point at me with their fingers

They whisper behind my back

But I don’t give a damn


What does it matter to me?

if I’m different from them

I don’t belong to anybody

I have no owner


I know they criticize me

I have no doubt they hate me

Envy corrodes them

They are overwhelmed by my way of life


Why that might be?

It’s not my fault

They find my circumstances insulting

My destiny is the one I decide

The one I choose for myself


To whom does it matter what I do?

To whom does it matter what I say?

This is the way I am and so, I will continue being

I will never change (x2)


Maybe it’s my fault

because I haven’t complied

already it’s too late to change now

I will stand firm on my convictions

I will reinforce my position

my destiny is the one I decide

the one I choose for myself


To whom does it matter what I do?

To whom does it matter what I say?

This is the way I am and so I will continue being

I will never change (x2)


Second versión:

¿A quién le importa? By Thalia.

This is a song with a great message of “My life, my decisions, you mind your own business” and basically it is too good to let it forgotten in the past.

Thalia is a girl who shines on everything she does and of course it leads to people’s jealousy and envy. She received many attacks from other female singers. That’s why she decided to make her own version. The original song was famous because of the combative lyrics and even if Thalia’s style is more pop, the song keeps the combative spirit. This song was a hit and gave her even more popularity, so the attacks kept going on. Once she got into this mood and getting more experience from this song, she made her own song, following this style.


Arrasando by Thalia.

Lyrics English translation of the original song


Taking over

What goes up goes down and whatever can happen

Because the human status

Is coming to end with the race

When you triumph in life

The envy is growing more

When you go up you start feeling

As if they are trying to trip you up


You don’t know that the wolves are by your side

Well it suits them perfectly

The simplest appearance

The gatecrashers are never missing

To get a wild party going

When you need them the most, it’s when you see them the least


The jealousy is so big that they are tickling me

If i get fatter, if i get thinner,

If I don’t have ribs [1]

Today i have an answer to anyone who asks well

I go on walking

I also go on winning over


Winning over life

Harvesting joy

There is no obstacle that impedes me,

To enjoy a new day

Winning over the good stuff

Throwing away all the bad stuff

There is no darkness today which can cover

This light which is dazzling in me


It seems we are mortal weapons

Well we mutilate fearlessly

Natural emotions

We ruin happiness

We are done with life

Sabotages for the soul

Stumbles and apathy


We judge everyone we meet

We tear their beliefs up

And we evade their reasons

Because if he is handsome, then he is gay

If they are rich they belong to the drug cartel

If she is young and very beautiful

The scalpel was with her


We are entering a new millennium

We try to concentrate in what

Our body does

We are young and strong

And also intelligent

In the soul is being concentrated

What during the day it wins over


Winning over life

Harvesting joy

There is no obstacle that impedes me,

To enjoy a new day

Winning over the good stuff

Throwing away all the bad stuff

There is no darkness today which can cover

This light which is dazzling in me


Looking at the past one can learn the legacy

Of the people who have left

A mark in the past

Einstein, DaVinci, Neruda, y Maliche

The Aztecs and Toltecas and also the Zapotecas


Napoleon known as a strategist

Cleopatra doesn’t care for the devotion in love

Ghandi, Luther and Mother Teresa

Even though many years may pass

Their strength of character will be spoken of


Lady Diana princess of hearts

And one Eve who has sinned

And she condemned us with her actions

Luther King, Malcolm X

Tireless in their faith

They are people who in their passage

They will always be taking over


[1] Thalia won the title of “the smallest waist between Latin celebrities” and other female singers immediately said that she got a surgery to take off 2 ribs and make her waist smaller. When those rumors were on the highest point she arrived to events wearing shirts saying “Girl without 2 ribs”. She kept making jokes about it and after some time people forgot about it.

Playing with fire

Posted in PARA PENSAR on November 25, 2016 by Un Espejo Para Mi Alma

Today I want to talk about a specific topic. There is something called “Person without control over his passionate impulses”. For some people it is a problem in the education at the first stages of life, (Like when children go with their parents to a stranger’s house and they see an interesting object. Some children will just look at it and do nothing, while some other children will grab it, play it, break it, stole it even if they know it is wrong). For some people it is just a kind of personality. Basically it is a person with a lack of control, or without force of will towards anything that will give him immediate pleasure or excitement.

It is a person who cannot resist temptations. It doesn’t matter if it is dangerous, harmful or painful for him or for others. It is a person who lives thinking about “now” and doesn’t think about the future or in a long-term. This person will only focus on “What gives me pleasure today?”, “What makes me happy today?”, “What do I want today? And how far will I go to get it?”. And they will always find a reason to justify their desires or they will only say “I want it and that’s it.”

What are the signals? This people won’t think about long-term. While facing any proposal they will say “Let’s do it” without thinking about it. They will look for everything that gives immediate pleasure or to feel the rush of adrenaline. This person will always have an addiction, and if you take away one of them, they will find another one. They will jump from addiction to sex, to alcohol, to drive at a high speed, to drugs, to roller coasters, to gambling, to kleptomania etc.

They will enjoy the excitement of breakup up the rules and they will do anything that feels dangerous. The more rules you create, the more they will want to break them. Sometimes we see their bosses or leaders and other people around being indulgent or permissive, but it is because they already know there is no point in creating rules that won’t be followed.

They have moments when they need to destroy and I am not talking about huge things, they will destroy small things. They can do things like biting their nails and specially their cuticles. They know it is wrong, they know it hurts, they know it will have long-term effects on their hands… they keep doing it. They buy things by impulse and can even turn into hoarders. They have manias related to their hair. It can be hair pulling, biting or eating the own hair, drastic hair changes etc. They can do the same with their skin, they can scratch their skin until they get hurt. They are always related to pyromania and gambling. They put themselves on risk, on purpose.

Sometimes people don’t understand why they do it, but when they are doing something that they know it’s wrong, they have a certain pleasure, a feeling of freedom, they feel smarter because they fooled everybody. They want to reach a new level so they keep crossing limits. They want to know how far they can go. They are not looking to get into trouble, they enjoy escaping from those troubles successfully.

This person will want something, he will do anything to get it and at some point he will want something else, suddenly will leave everything else behind and go to get that new goal. When he is in front of a “temptation”, he will totally forget about anything else, he won’t think if it is bad, if it goes against any moral, commitment, responsibility etc… he won’t think if he is hurting others. He won’t think if he will get into troubles. He won’t think if it has bad consequences in a short or long term. He won’t think about anything. His brain just goes “I want it. I want it. I want it. What should I do to get it?”. Again, he won’t care if he has to fight for it, he won’t care if it will ruin any other project, he won’t care how much he has been working in another goal, he won’t even notice if it is possible or not.

Do they repent later? Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t because they found a justification for their actions. Even of the rest of the people can’t see it, in his mind, he had a good reason to do it. For him, it will be the greatest idea in the world, even if for us it is the most stupid decision. Sometimes he can feel guilty, he can be aware that he is hurting others; he will say again and again “I am sorry I will never do it again”. He can even cry, and those tears may be real, it doesn’t mean that they don’t really feel it. He may be feeling it. He may truly repent. He may be willing to change and he may say sincere words in that moment. But it won’t happen. He won’t change. It is something that people around him must have present on their minds. It won’t happen. He will never change.

And it’s not their fault. Sometimes people tell them “You lied. You don’t want to change. You didn’t work hard enough to change. You are a bad person. You don’t love me enough to change”. It doesn’t work like that. He is not a bad person; he is just unable to control his impulses. It is not an issue of “immaturity”. It doesn’t depend on the force of will, or how much he loves the people he hurts. He just can’t do it. He won’t change.

And this is the first mistake everybody does.

“I will change him with my love”. NO you can’t.

“Once he is on a friendly environment he will change”. NO, it won’t happen.

“If he loves me enough he will change. He doesn’t want to hurt me” NO, he will hurt you soon or later.

“If we all support him he will change”. No. People don’t change to that extreme.

If you can’t change him, you have 2 options. You can run away, because he will hurt you for sure, soon or later… or you can learn to bear it… (Or you can try to bear it until you get tired and run away).

Always, the first step is admitting. He must admit he has a problem, he can’t control his impulses and that he must be responsible for his actions. He must face the effects of his actions, people around him shouldn’t try to minimize his problems or he will never learn. If you don’t allow him to learn the lesson, you are stopping his development. I mean, you can’t completely change him, but you shouldn’t encourage him to misbehave. If you love him, don’t encourage him to misbehave. If you know he is weak, if you know he makes mistakes easily, if you know he is irresponsible and he doesn’t know how to behave… don’t encourage him. If you love him, don’t encourage him to become a worse person, because the same way, the situation will turn worse with time. Problems will get worse with time. And if he develops a personality that is unbearable, then nobody would want to be on his side, even you won’t be able to bear him, he will end up alone and you will be also guilty for his loneliness.

Also, you must be careful because some people use it as an excuse to make a mess and just shamelessly say “I can’t control myself” with a smile on their faces. It is not the point. The point is to realize that there is a problem that must be treated with a special care to avoid keep hurting others.

“I must admit that I can’t control my impulses. I must admit that I am weak towards temptations. I must admit that I don’t think about the consequences when I see the opportunity of doing _______________. I must admit that I didn’t care about other’s feelings when I did this. I must admit that I always think about myself before I think about others. I must admit that the situations controlled me and I had absolutely no control over the situations. I must admit that I can be easily manipulated to put myself in troubles. I must not blame others for my bad decisions. I must be responsible for the consequences of my actions and do not expect others to fix my problems or to save me from situations I negligently created”.

“I must admit that I am with a person who can’t control his impulses. I must take care of my feelings because he won’t do it. I must remember to not put myself on a risk to save a person who will not think about me. I must always remember that he won’t change. I must not expose my beloved ones to him, because he will hurt them for sure. I must not think in a long-term. I must not promise to be on his side because I don’t know if I will be able to bear it forever. If he goes on the wrong way or harms himself, it is not my fault, I should not blame myself, I didn’t provoke it, I couldn’t stop it, I shouldn’t feel guilty. It is his personality and he won’t change”.

Once the person is aware of his situation, he must make it clear to his beloved ones. He must explain what happens inside of his heart, how he feels, what goes through his mind when he does things that he shouldn’t. He shouldn’t think about having an “average” relationship. He shouldn’t plan a long-term relationship. He shouldn’t get into formal relationship because he will only hurt his partner.

Once he is aware of his problem, he will be able to talk about it clearly before starting a relationship. He has to say:

“I can’t control my impulses. I am weak. I can’t keep a list of priorities. I can’t promise you that you will be my priority. I can’t promise you to have you in my mind 24/7. I can’t promise you loyalty. I can’t promise anything at all. I can’t promise you that I will love you tomorrow. I love you today. Today I am crazy for you, but I don’t know tomorrow. Today I am giving you my everything like nobody else and I am honest about it, but I can’t promise you anything else. I can’t promise a long-term interest. At the first opportunity I will focus on something else. It is not your fault. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you. It doesn’t mean you are not enough or important for me. I am like that. It is part of my personality. I can’t change it. Take it or leave it”.

And then the other person will evaluate if it worth to go on or if it is time to run away.

What would be a reason to stay? Well, if you get into a relationship with a person like that, without being aware of his personality, it may be really dangerous. These people are addictive. When they are focused on you, they will give you everything, they will be more passionate and affectionate than the average, they show an unbelievable love and it will look like they will do everything for you. The next day they will just focus on something else and act like they don’t even remember you. That situation may create an addiction. You receive an amount of passion and intensity that you can’t find with somebody else, but at the same time you face disappointments that you don’t face with others.

I would say that the safest step is to be away from people like this. I always say “I won’t get into an addiction because I don’t know if I will be able to control it”.

But still you can play with fire and make sure that the situation doesn’t dominate you. In Mexico we have an expression like: “Eating the bonbon”. “Bonbon” is used to refer a super sexy person and the expression basically means “An opportunity that you just can’t let go, but you don’t expect it to work in a long-term”. Let’s say that there is a super sexy person, you like him so much, he is interesting, attractive, he drives you crazy… but you know this person doesn’t have a control over his passionate impulses. You try to focus on something else but this person is a temptation. It is like having a thorn in your side. It is still there bothering… Once a person turns into a temptation, you will fall for it soon or later. It can be today, tomorrow or in 10 years… And I think is better to do it under a controlled situation than at a bad moment.

It can happen to me, it can happen to others, and it is understandable. I may say “It is better if he takes off that thorn now, and not later or while being with me. Then, later I won’t be worried or expecting it to happen”. I think it is better to take off the thorn sooner than later, before it turns into an obsession.

As far as you are aware that you shouldn’t expect too much, and you keep the control over the situation, you can play with fire. You let free enough feelings to enjoy the situation, but at the same time you don’t give everything to a person that you know will fail to you. If you know that you can expect a maximum of 1 month or 3 months of stability, and you know he tends to boycott himself at any moment, you simply don’t make long-term plans. Everything gets much easier when you say “I am sure we will break up fast”.

“Eating a bonbon” is like breaking the diet. You know you shouldn’t do it but also you have to spoil yourself from time to time. You take a piece of that chocolate cake and you will be fine, as far as you don’t binge or pig out. You should be able to stop eating before it harms you.

You just have to be the opposite of him. You have to make sure you are strong enough to control your feelings and to decide when to stop, when to put a limit and how not going back so it doesn’t turn into an addiction.